tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post4869978943787963386..comments2024-01-09T17:48:45.910-06:00Comments on Travis Erwin: Things Ain't What They SeemTravis Erwinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09420879160702098979noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-78953240237855494202008-06-19T18:03:00.000-05:002008-06-19T18:03:00.000-05:00Winning by losing. It's an amazing concept, one I'...Winning by losing. It's an amazing concept, one I'm sure we've all seen play out in life.<BR/><BR/>Great post!Janna Leadbetterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06339705935553160673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-40446457711596082822008-06-19T02:51:00.000-05:002008-06-19T02:51:00.000-05:00I lost my first marriage of 3 years and a couple o...I lost my first marriage of 3 years and a couple of years later won my wife of the last 25. Dos that count?the walking manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10058913927297370740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-57062276594248674622008-06-19T02:39:00.000-05:002008-06-19T02:39:00.000-05:00I'm sure I have won by losing, but I can't think o...I'm sure I have won by losing, but I can't think of an example off the top of my head. And, I bet this happens lots of time and we're unaware of it. Have fun tweaking your novel!Barriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04678698296265168217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-84777358835099150382008-06-18T13:26:00.000-05:002008-06-18T13:26:00.000-05:00Oh boy! Yes! I have won by losing.A few years ago...Oh boy! Yes! I have won by losing.<BR/>A few years ago we bought a forklift off ebay from Company XYZ. Mistake #1 we paid them up front so they would schedule the delivery quickly--but felt okay about it.They had been in business many years and had good reviews. Days turned into weeks with me calling everyday--always some new excuse. Finally after about 6 weeks I called an attorney & he contacted Company XYZ. Next week we had our forklift delivered. It wasn't the forklift we ordered--had a few different things on it but we were just thrilled to have it. <BR/><BR/>A month or so later we were contacted by another Company ABC in Iowa who had purchased a forklift from Company XYZ also. They had received a forklift that didn't have all the gadgets on it they needed, so declined it and asked Company XYZ to send another one. Turns out the forklift Company ABC declined was shipped to us. <BR/>Company ABC told us that Company XYZ had disappeared with several peoples money and now a lawsuit was being filed to locate and sue Comapany XYZ. Whew--by the grace of God we came out on top. <BR/>Did we learn our lesson? Hmmm--I hate to admit I just purchased a car off ebay and am in the process of getting it scheduled on an auto transport truck. Scared--yes! I won't breath until it gets here--in one piece--I hope!Katrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04073573682040136848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-69727248170309768742008-06-18T13:23:00.000-05:002008-06-18T13:23:00.000-05:00Your examples made me LOL, but I think about this ...Your examples made me LOL, but I think about this "winning by losing" every single day, (though I never referred to it as such. That's a good way to put it.)<BR/><BR/>I consider it God's perspective vs. my perspective. I may think that turning down one path will be good for me, but as a human on the ground, I'm unable to see where that path goes around the bend or over a hill. God can sometimes send me down another path, which may not seem that great, but it's destination is better in the end. God was able to see which path ended better.<BR/><BR/>I've won by losing so many times I've lost count. Sometimes people will say they're coincidences, others say it's fate, others, God. <BR/><BR/>There's the boy who I thought I loved who didn't love me back quite the same. I begged and prayed that he'd love me back and we'd marry each other and all of that... I ended up losing touch with him and forgot about it. A couple years later I married Carlos, and we've been happily married 10 years with 2 healthy children.<BR/><BR/>This other boy (now a man, of course), found me through the internet last year and we messaged back and forth a little just to see how the other was doing... He's in the process of divorcing his wife and has drug and alcohol problems. He likes to party and isn't exactly a "family man".<BR/><BR/>Looking back, the pain of that unrequited love was worth it, and I believe God knew that, and I'm forever thankful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-22841342314108962692008-06-18T12:19:00.000-05:002008-06-18T12:19:00.000-05:00I can't remember specific examples, but I have alw...I can't remember specific examples, but I have always looked for the silver lining.JMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05144019552337738621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-69941546382690364442008-06-18T11:30:00.000-05:002008-06-18T11:30:00.000-05:00Jenn says: You are going to feel like a big fa...Jenn says:<BR/><BR/> You are going to feel like a big fat looser if you have to fly to vegas by your self and get a cab and try to find us. It is $335 ding master.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-50806464211670326462008-06-18T08:45:00.000-05:002008-06-18T08:45:00.000-05:00Lately we are in a funk around here, I'll let you ...Lately we are in a funk around here, I'll let you know if anything good comes from it:( <BR/><BR/>Congrats on winning the anthology, that's a fun site, I've never seen it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-29177511379934189762008-06-18T08:34:00.000-05:002008-06-18T08:34:00.000-05:00I guess it all depends on how someone looks at lif...I guess it all depends on how someone looks at life. You lose a job and find a better one. Some person you thought was perfect dumps you, and you find your soulmate. <BR/><BR/>Congratulations on the First Line anthology thing. I entered one of their contests last year (and have since posted the entry over at my other blog). I lost the contest, but I used the experience to learn more about writing. =o)B.E. Sandersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04336115135400388268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-63806050709116441002008-06-18T08:16:00.000-05:002008-06-18T08:16:00.000-05:007 years of losing by being married to a verbally a...7 years of losing by being married to a verbally abusive husband..but the direct result of that is it made me a woman who takes shit from no man or woman ever again..i'll never be that girl again and thank you Goddess for that..so maybe I should have thanked the asshole......<BR/>nah!yellowdoggrannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14906624317290990109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-82304129873464304992008-06-18T06:31:00.000-05:002008-06-18T06:31:00.000-05:00Yep.Once missed out on a keen summer job doing an ...Yep.<BR/>Once missed out on a keen summer job doing an archaelogical dig because I'd accepted a job working in the library the day before.<BR/>Met my husband that summer.Bernitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05264585685253812090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-33534225937804558252008-06-17T22:47:00.000-05:002008-06-17T22:47:00.000-05:00I can't think of any specific examples, but it is ...I can't think of any specific examples, but it is nice when life works out like that.jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05216297330449219606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-69390824624749632232008-06-17T22:00:00.000-05:002008-06-17T22:00:00.000-05:00Travis ---I have not been here in awhile so let me...Travis ---<BR/><BR/>I have not been here in awhile so let me first start off by congratulating the hard work you put in to your book and being at *the end* of the book. The hard part starts now and I know you know that. Don't doubt yourself. That's the biggest downfall of any author is when you start 2nd guessing and doubting your literary worth. <BR/><BR/>You are a prolific writer and many here can attest to that. I'm sure your book will be wonderful and I can't wait to purchase a copy of it. :)<BR/><BR/>PrezpreTzelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03536465579225240434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-521797665350244902008-06-17T20:10:00.000-05:002008-06-17T20:10:00.000-05:00When I got divorced from my first husband, I thoug...When I got divorced from my first husband, I thought I had lost everything. He was verbally abusive and a cheater, and after I left him, my self-esteem was at an all-time low. I felt like a loser, not worth anything.<BR/><BR/>But if I had stayed in that marriage and not found the courage to get out of it, I never would have met the man of my dreams 24 years ago. We just celebrated our 22nd anniversary, and it just gets better and better every day. <BR/><BR/>I guess that makes up for being a "loser" all those years ago, doesn't it!Dizzy Ms. Lizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06089738977432199662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-89976928482254338742008-06-17T19:51:00.000-05:002008-06-17T19:51:00.000-05:00What often looks like winning is actually losing. ...What often looks like winning is actually losing. You just never know until down the line I think. This ia great post and has me thinking.Sizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00182860438430294750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-16352989500924147042008-06-17T19:18:00.000-05:002008-06-17T19:18:00.000-05:00Hey great going on finishing! You are ahead of me!...Hey great going on finishing! You are ahead of me! I'm still chugging along.<BR/><BR/>And yes, winning by losing is a must in my life!Ello - Ellen Ohhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18311917335471167591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-80305024287290190932008-06-17T18:47:00.000-05:002008-06-17T18:47:00.000-05:00wakes up three weeks later with a strange burning ...<I>wakes up three weeks later with a strange burning sensation and his own appendage stuck to his inner thigh</I><BR/><BR/>I hate it when that happens.Stephen Parrishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16883165490847664389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-87650100056069858352008-06-17T17:01:00.000-05:002008-06-17T17:01:00.000-05:00I agree that most authors end up exploring a unive...I agree that most authors end up exploring a universal theme for most of their career. I think it's cool.Spy Scribblerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14299551957327543491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-52005420158240959812008-06-17T16:45:00.000-05:002008-06-17T16:45:00.000-05:00Great post. I once missed out on a flight that was...Great post. I once missed out on a flight that was taking me to the RWA convention in Georgia - my husband had to go to the ER that night, so I missed the trip. But I think that "losing" moment pushed me a in a different direction with my writing and my reading. For so long, all I read and wrote was romance. Now, in the two years since, I've really branched out and it has opened up an entirely new world. Definitely a winning moment and one that I wish would have happened A LOT sooner.Melissa Amateishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16086267508858187716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-60397489434901278872008-06-17T16:31:00.000-05:002008-06-17T16:31:00.000-05:00aw, i like patti's story.i win by losing all the t...aw, i like patti's story.<BR/><BR/>i win by losing all the time. i just can't think of a good example at the moment...Monnikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13998729112903749621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-72746850612509055212008-06-17T16:13:00.000-05:002008-06-17T16:13:00.000-05:00I am sure I have, but nothing specific comes to mi...I am sure I have, but nothing specific comes to mind.<BR/><BR/>I bet that you are aSeinfeld fan as he also used this concept a lot, in both directions.Rocketstarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08048394765796741834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-4383946266280450762008-06-17T16:00:00.000-05:002008-06-17T16:00:00.000-05:00"Then I starting dissecting my other works of fict..."Then I starting dissecting my other works of fiction and I think to some degree that element is present in 95% of the stories I've created albeit more subtle in some that others. I'm still trying to decide what that means."<BR/><BR/>I think it's a good thing. Many authors explore the same themes throughout their careers. I think on some level, a true artist has some issue that they spend their lives working through and it feeds that creativity.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00665632105920753931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-74729725810614520712008-06-17T15:59:00.000-05:002008-06-17T15:59:00.000-05:00Suddenly, my self-esteem has soared to new heights...Suddenly, my self-esteem has soared to new heights.<BR/><BR/>Thanks, Travis!Gregory Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04769570478816593558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-89265611669721549252008-06-17T15:30:00.000-05:002008-06-17T15:30:00.000-05:00my first fiance cheated on me, which in itself is ...my first fiance cheated on me, which in itself is a great story that requires copious amounts of alcohol and phrases like "get out" and "are you shitting me?!", and i lost my dream of marrying the snake (which i hadn't known until that particular moment). this moment of losing opened the door for my second fiance, whom i married and live happily ever after with.Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05716215892504806470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9174721864572618040.post-4684971990933126422008-06-17T14:39:00.000-05:002008-06-17T14:39:00.000-05:00I am a happily married man and had only two "serio...I am a happily married man and had only two "serious" girlfriends before getting married. They lost out on "this guy". At the time I felt like I was a loser (they both broke up with me) but in the end I have the wife and 2 great kids..so on a "small" level, no actually a big level, I have one. One of the ex's is twice divorced!March2theSeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11824771918572184205noreply@blogger.com